It All Starts With Me

Confession: I still don’t know what I am going to be when I grow up; I am not even sure that I will grow up; or that I even want to; especially if it means giving up my dreams and settling for the status quo.

I suppose in some ways I have always gone against the grain. Not because I want to be difficult, but more because I pondered the various possibilites, not readily accepting all of the conventions set before me. Why must I have a successful job or career in a field I dislike while I struggle to juggle my responsibilities at home, and try to make time to raise my children? I have several Supermom and Dad friends who do just that – and well too. I think of them with admiration; which turns into guilt that I too don’t do it all; which promptly turns into relief that I do not have to; and gratitude that I may choose not to. I digress…

What I want is to be happy, and to raise happy children, who will grow into happy adults. I don’t believe there is a prescribed method to achieve this dream. The path to such bliss is different for each of us. One thing is for certain though – it all starts with me. Each day, we are given another opportunity to improve ourselves, to make necessary changes and adjustments, to strive for goodness – greatness even.

Two of the most important lessons I have learned (mostly the hard way) to be true are: The more I express gratitude for each of my blessings, the larger the list of things to be grateful for becomes. And, whatever I devote my time and attention to will expand, whether positive or negative in nature makes no difference, it will grow in any case.

It has taken me a while to understand that where I am and where I am going is a direct reflection of the choices I have made and will continue to make. And I choose to follow my own heart’s bliss, regardless of the accepted cultural standards that whisper to me, “The Jones’ do it best! Why aren’t you keeping up with them?”

I always found the Jones’ to be a bit of a bore anyway.

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12 thoughts on “It All Starts With Me

  1. Awesome! I think we all can learn something from you. There is no prescribed way to live. I realized that recently watching my sons discuss a school project. One was visual, the other just wanted the facts. Neither way was better, they used what worked for them in that situation. Same thing applies to adults in our daily lives.

    Loved the last line!! Great closing!!


  2. Love this! Even when we loose, we sure do win (as a little birdie told me one day).
    And frankly, those Jones are a bore!
    Your quote (do what you love), speaks volumes to me. At this time in my life, I love to be just happy as well as my family. And gratitude does give volume to that. Thank you for this! I sure needed to read this today! Love you much!

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    • vickiewhat says:

      Thanks Viva. I wasn’t sure if I should post it because it was just my random thoughts. I’m happy that I did and so glad it resonated with you my friend. Follow your personal bliss! You deserve every happiness. Hugs and love.


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  4. So glad to hear your life lessons learned. I totally agree with you. Be grateful for what you have. What you feed grows.
    Thank you for following my blog.

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  5. zhangah says:

    Thanks for sharing this, I couldn’t agree more with your post! I believe our ‘job’ is to be the best version of ourselves and that starts by looking inward, discovering our passions and working each day to improve.

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  6. timkeen40 says:

    We got such a small time here. No need to waste that on small things. Be happy for what you have? Such a great message.



  7. This is GREAT! Reminds me of that old story about the two wolfs, good and bad, that are within us both. The one we feed is the one who wins… ;-). And I agree—the Jone’s aren’t that great anyhow—YOU are much better!!!! ❤


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